Life is easy when you see the good in it!

People! Life! We have this impression that is all so complex. We have this impression that we know better. We have this impression that we can control it all. It’s all just our imagination in the end. As a matter of fact, people and life are simple! You see, people are selfish and life is what we make of it.

Wait a minute! you might say. People are selfish? What does that mean? Well, it’s true if you think about it. And yes, that includes me as well. We all talk and think constantly about ‘I’. I want food! I want clothes! I want a new car! I want a new house! I want…you think about it, it’s all about ‘I’. Even when we think we are helping others, in the end, we are helping ourselves. We feel good after we made a good gesture, we feel important and helpful, our self-esteem is growing. We are selfish. But that is not necessarily a bad thing because you see when you make something good for those around you and you feel good about it, what do you want to do? Make some more good things, right?

Life is not complex at all. You make your life the way you want it. Stop! Don’t think about those material things that you can’t afford. Think about your state of mind. So, you can’t afford that new car, or new clothes, or a house. And that makes you unhappy and you automatically think that your life is horrible because if you would have money you would be happier because you could afford all those things! False! The more you have, the more you want. The more you want, the more you miss the money. The more you have, the bigger are your responsibilities which bring more stress and anxiety into your life. With that in mind, think about how simple life is! If you stop and enjoy what you have instead of worrying about what you don’t have, do you think that you might start enjoying life and little things? Maybe you can enjoy your health, maybe you can enjoy the little food you put on your kids’ table, maybe you can enjoy that smile or hug that someone gave you. Go ahead and roll your eyes and tell me how wrong I am, but in the end, if you do not stop to worry about what you don’t have, you will never enjoy life fully and you will never be truly happy.

Thank for reading! xoxo

xoxo Cristina B.

Our roots define who we are?

via Daily Prompt: Roots Roots

A question that I ask myself often is if my roots define who I am. I am keep on wondering if I can change who I am, if it makes me unhappy. You see, I come from a family where family drama and fights happened often. I was constantly stressed as a child, constantly wishing I had a different family. However, I was always telling myself that it could be worse.

Once I became an adult and I moved out from my parents home I didn’t feel free like I thought I would. I was always looking for my parents approval in any decision that I was taking and when they did not agree with me it made me really uncomfortable. I lived like this for some years. I hit the bottom a couple of times, depression and anxiety where always part of my life. See, this is what I think has to do with our roots as well. Our well-being depends so much on where we came from.

Since I was stressed as a child that followed me in my adult life as well. I was making everyone around me feel like they are putting a constant pressure on my shoulders and no matter what they did to please me I was just reproaching that they do not get me.

They can’t understand me, I was constantly thinking.

One would think that after a hard childhood I should have normally distance myself from the people who created all the drama in my life. Instead, I was closer to them then ever. Trying somehow to make them understand the harm that they caused I was constantly trying to get their attention. And I did! But to what cost? I became the “drama queen” of the family. By now I was having my own family. Two children and a wonderful man to take care of and to concentrate on. But I was not! I was still concentrating on them! On the roots, on the people who made me suffer so much.

Not so long ago it hit me! I am free of them. It is my decision if I want to let them hurt me or move on and be happy. After a lot of suffering and crying, I was able to leave my terrible childhood behind. I became an understanding mother and a loving woman for the man next to me. I still talk to my parents, I do. I can’t let them behind me, however their opinions or approval do not have an impact in my life anymore.

I decided to leave my roots behind and I started to create new roots for my own family.

And that allowed me to live a happy life!

Cristina B.